When in doubt...
 

Ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can:


Do you find yourself making excuses, lying or covering up for your child, spouse, relative or friend?

Do you have reason not to trust your child, spouse, relative or friend?

Is it becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations?

Do you lie awake worrying about your child, spouse, relative or friend?

Is your child missing school without your knowledge?

Is your spouse missing work and are the bills piling up?

Are your savings mysteriously disappearing?

Are the unanswered questions causing hostility and undermining your marriage?

Are you asking yourself "what's wrong?" and "is it my fault?"

Are your suspicions turning you into a detective and are you afraid of what you might find?

Are normal family disagreements becoming hostile and violent?

Are you canceling your social functions with vague excuses?

Are you becoming increasingly reluctant to invite friends to your home?

Is concern for your spouse, child or friend causing you headaches, a knotty stomach and extreme anxiety?

Is your spouse/child easily irritated by minute matters?

Does you whole life seem a nightmare?

Are you unable to discuss the situation with friends or relatives because of embarrassment?

Are your attempts at control frustrating?

Do you over compensate and try not to make waves?

Do you keep trying to make things better and nothing helps?

Are the life styles and friends of the child/spouse changing?

Do you ever think they may be using drugs?


If you have answered Yes to four or more of these questions, Nar-Anon may be able to give you the answers you are looking for.