N is for No. As the country song said many years ago, "What part of 'No' don't you understand? So many times we say NO because we say what we think others want us to do. Some times we say NO when we really mean 'Yes' but fearful and we try to please. No is no, you don't have to explain it, your don't have to justify it. 'No' just means 'No' and we can stand firm in what we believe. Sometimes we don't think we have the right to say NO! Old tapes can be killers, they eat at the soul.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnl7HDWduAU