If you don't have a sponsor, get one. If you can't find a sponsor that you can identify with, get a temporary sponsor. She can get you rooted into the program and show you the ropes.
I was told to look for someone who had what I didn't have. That was just about everything, because I was this empty shell that needed a lot of filling up. First of all, I needed a foundation to build upon.
Recovery isn't a quick fix. It is a one day at a time program, that takes a desire to be honest, open-minded and willing. I needed someone with the same desire for sobriety, I just didn't want to be sober and continue on in my dis-ease.