Quote:
Today's thought is:
Sincere love is not born of possessiveness but of necessary space and distance.
--Melanie Gainsley
Dimestore romance novels and the passion frequently portrayed in movies invite us to mimic behavior that's seldom in our best interests. Focusing attention too narrowly on another person stifles our personal growth, without which we die, as does the relationship, in time.
Real love means we will celebrate one another's avenue to fulfillment, feeling joy when our paths are parallel, trusting the growth process when our directions seem at cross-purposes. We'll know that, whatever our destination, we'll each be in the right place at the right time truly free to love one another -- not forced because we've been trapped in a binding relationship mistakenly defined as love.
But where are our role models for healthy love? Few of us have been privy to them. And yet, we can discover responsible, loving behavior for ourselves if we'll risk honesty about our personal goals, our fears, our dreams, and allow our loved ones the same honest openness.
You are reading from the book:
Worthy of Love by Karen Casey
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It is so important to recognize and acknowledge the person behind the disease. So many times we feel hurt, angry, abandoned, rejected, etc. and take it personal and forget that we need to forgive the person although sometimes we have trouble forgiving the action. Some things are unforgiveable and not acceptable, and we need to learn to differentiate between them. So often we need to do it for ourselves and our own recovery and our own peace of mind. Sometimes it is just too much pain to carry around and we just have to let it go.
