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Sunday, April 13, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Enjoyment
One of the prohibitions many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule — don't have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs — people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living.
Many of us associated suffering with some sort of sainthood. . Now, we associate it with codependency. We can go through the day making ourselves feel anxious, guilty, miserable, and deprived. Or we can allow ourselves to go through that same day feeling good. In recovery, we eventually learn the choice is ours.
There is much to be enjoyed each day, and it is okay to feel good. We can let ourselves enjoy our tasks. We can learn to relax without guilt. We can even learn to have fun.
Work at learning to have fun. Apply yourself with dedication to learning enjoyment. Work as hard at learning to have fun as you did at feeling miserable.
Our work will pay off. Fun will become fun. Life will become worth living. And each day, well find many pleasures to be enjoyed.
Today, I will let myself enjoy life as I go through my day.
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The martyr and victim are roles I played for so many years. How can you enjoy life when you play into other people's games. My sister returned my book today. It made me very sad. We grew up in the same dysfunctional family. She chooses to continue to role play and doesn't want to look at herself.
I am so grateful for the program that gave me a second chance at life. Why not enjoy it? Each day is bonus and a blessing if you look for it.