Thanks for sharing. I had to leave my relationships, even in sobriety because I found that they were not working a strong enough program and were trying to make their safe space in mine. They had to be complete and whole within themselves. When you are in a needy, relationship don't work. My ex-boyfriend got angry when I said, "I don't need you in my life, you are here because I want to share my life with you." When that is gone and there is no trust, there is no relationship.
I was told that I shouldn't look for someone to complete me. I lived my life through other people all my life and I stayed sick.