[MajestyJo]

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go


Taking Care of Ourselves Emotionally

What does it mean to take care of myself emotionally? I recognize when I'm feeling angry, and I accept that feeling without shame or blame.

I recognize when I'm feeling hurt, and I accept those feelings without attempting to punish the source of my pain. I recognize and feel fear when that emotion presents itself.

I allow myself to feel happiness, joy, and love when those emotions are available. Taking care of myself means I've made a decision that it's okay to feel.

Taking care of my emotions means I allow myself to stay with the feeling until it's time to release it and go on to the next one.

I recognize that sometimes my feelings can help point me toward reality, but sometimes my feelings are deceptive. They are important, but I do not have to let them control me. I can feel, and think too.

I talk to people about my feelings when that's appropriate and safe.

I reach out for help or guidance if I get stuck in a particular emotion.

I'm open to the lessons my emotions may be trying to teach me. After I feel, accept, and release the feeling, I ask myself what it is I want or need to do to take care of myself.

Taking care of myself emotionally means I value, treasure, explore, and cherish the emotional part of myself.

Today, I will take care of myself emotionally. I will be open to, and accepting of, the emotional part of myself and other people. I will strive for balance by combining emotions with reason, but I will not allow intellect to push the emotional part of myself away.

My motto for most of my life was: "Do it with style and grace" I lived in terror of the thought of losing control. I remember being at a party one night after the Legion closed and this guy said to me, "Gee Jo, you are so much fun when you are drunk." I froze! Control is a illusion. My emotions were all damned up inside of me. When I was 17 at my first job, a girl told me she was nervous and a little fearful of me because I dressed in the office uniform of a black sweater and skirt, and what she took as sophistication, was total fear, low self-esteem and no self-confidence, which followed me for most of my life.