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Tuesday, October 7, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Letting Go of Naivete
We can be loving, trusting people and still not allow ourselves to be used or abused. We don't have to let people do whatever they want to us. Not all requests are legitimate! Not all requests require a yes!
Life may test us. People may seek out our weak spots. We may see a common denominator to the limits that are being tested in our life. If we have a weak spot in one area, we may find ourselves tested repeatedly in that area by family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors. Life, people, our Higher Power, and the universe may be trying to teach us something specific.
When we learn that lesson, we will find that problems with that area dwindle. The boundary has been set, the power has been owned. For now, the lesson has been learned. We may need to be angry with certain people for a while, people who have pushed our tolerance over the edge. That's okay. Soon, we can let go of the anger and exchange it for gratitude. These people have been here to help us learn about what we don't want, what we won't tolerate, and how to own our power.
We can thank them for what we have learned.
How much are we willing to tolerate? How far shall we let others go with us? How much of our anger and intuition shall we discount? Where are our limits? Do we have any? If we don't, we're in trouble.
There are times to not trust others, but instead trust ourselves and set boundaries with those around us.
Today, I will be open to new awareness about the areas where I need healthier boundaries. I will forego my naive assumption that the other person is always right. I will exchange that view for trusting myself, listening to myself, and having and setting healthy boundaries.
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If I paused and stopped to think about this, I could probably write a book on this topic. So many old topics, from people who I thought were in the know. People who in general I thought were either next to God or Hi hand maidens or servants, so therefore, could do no wrong. In many ways they didn't, it was just that in many ways, they were good for them, and for others, but were not for good for me at the time. It is not good to stay in an abusive situation. A person should be told what abuse is, but many didn't know themselves, they too were living it.
Boundaries are a beautiful thing. It is learning to put them in place, reinforcing them, learning to that certain people need them set farther back than others, and other people just ignore them and walk all over them and figure they are not meant for them.
