When I think of these words, I am reminded of a few long-time women in Al-Anon. Even though their spouses are gone, sober, or still using, they say, "I still have to live with myself."
Recovery isn't about them, it is about me. It isn't about the alcoholic and/or addict in my life, it is about me living with me in peace and with sobriety (soundness of mind).
Let it begin with me, it doesn't matter what others say and do, I need to look at my reactions and thoughts as to how not to react, to accept, and/or forgive.