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bluidkiti · 12-06-2017, 09:05 AM

How to Deal With Unforgiveness

Matthew 18:21-22
God’s Word clearly teaches that we’re to forgive those who hurt us. So let’s identify practical ways to confront the matter of unforgiveness head-on. You may want to keep this list in your Bible or some other handy place for easy review.
Take it seriously. Unforgiveness is an issue that shouldn’t be dismissed.
Assume full responsibility. Don’t blame anyone for your feelings or actions.
Confess it honestly. Be specific and direct with God about what you feel, and acknowledge that unforgiveness is sin. Don’t “soften” the matter or let yourself off the hook.
Lay down your anger. Unless you deal with your resentment, bitterness can re-enter your life later on.
Pray for the other person. This may feel impossible or unnatural, but do it anyway. Praying is a choice to act lovingly, regardless of how you are treated. This will impact your relationship with that individual—and your outlook.
Ask that individual to forgive you. If the other person knows that you’ve been harboring bitterness, you need to ask for his or her forgiveness.
Do something nice for that person. Let a loving gesture demonstrate your desire to restore the relationship.
Don’t allow Satan to throw you back into unforgiveness. Once the matter is resolved, watch out for stray thoughts that could stir up memories of how the other person hurt you.
This process isn’t easy, but it works. If you go through these steps every time you are hurt, God will truly work miracles in your relationships.
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bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 70,520	How to Deal With Unforgiveness How to Deal With Unforgiveness Matthew 18:21-22 God’s Word clearly teaches that we’re to forgive those who hurt us. So let’s identify practical ways to confront the matter of unforgiveness head-on. You may want to keep this list in your Bible or some other handy place for easy review. Take it seriously. Unforgiveness is an issue that shouldn’t be dismissed. Assume full responsibility. Don’t blame anyone for your feelings or actions. Confess it honestly. Be specific and direct with God about what you feel, and acknowledge that unforgiveness is sin. Don’t “soften” the matter or let yourself off the hook. Lay down your anger. Unless you deal with your resentment, bitterness can re-enter your life later on. Pray for the other person. This may feel impossible or unnatural, but do it anyway. Praying is a choice to act lovingly, regardless of how you are treated. This will impact your relationship with that individual—and your outlook. Ask that individual to forgive you. If the other person knows that you’ve been harboring bitterness, you need to ask for his or her forgiveness. Do something nice for that person. Let a loving gesture demonstrate your desire to restore the relationship. Don’t allow Satan to throw you back into unforgiveness. Once the matter is resolved, watch out for stray thoughts that could stir up memories of how the other person hurt you. This process isn’t easy, but it works. If you go through these steps every time you are hurt, God will truly work miracles in your relationships. intouch.org __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.