[MajestyJo]

1. Do show an interest in everything your husband is doing
2. Do show loving care
3. Do ask their opinion - they love it
4. Do make them feel important
5. Do appear happy and detached
6. Do be cheerful
7. Do cooperate
8. Do be patient
9. Do attend the open meetings
10. Do - 'THINK'

1. Don't bring up the past
2. Don't say "you are a fine example'
3. Don't argue
4. Don't show that you know too much about the program
5. Don't have a martyr's attitude
6. Don't be indifferent
7. Don't be smug
8. Don't nag
9. Don't worry
10. Don't be angry

Looking at this, I see why my marriages didn't work. The "DOS" use to be my don't.

Taken from The First Steps from Al-Anon - The First 35 years of Beginning

Something I posted on another site a few years ago.