C is for Cry. It is okay to Cry. I had to give myself permission. My first husband, told me to quit crying, that I was using them as a weapon. So I did, and it took a long time in recovery to let the tears flow. Tears are very healing, sometimes those tears can be tears of joy.
I was made to feel it was my fault, or I believed it was my fault that he was running around with other women, introduced me to a few, and was with another woman the night our son was born. I had to acknowledge that I had a right to cry, but I also had to look at how many times I used tears to get my own way.
