V is for Valid. I had to learn to validate myself instead of looking outside of myself for it. When I go outside of myself, I am still using people, places, and things to make me feel better.
The say discretion is a better part of valour. Most of us lost that along the way along with my other things, including our sense of self. I know when I came into the rooms of recovery, I was very empty, and I had to fill up with spiritual things to fill the void.