We will sabotage ourselves if we don't believe we deserve success.
Maybe we could try a different approach - stop torturing ourselves for the things we have done wrong and then try forgiveness instead. We can make amends by doing service work – a way of keeping that self-sabotaging guilt at bay.
Sometimes people don't know how to directly ask for forgiveness, but their behaviors will tell us that's what they're saying. Whenever somebody asks for forgiveness, whenever we have a list of resentments, whenever we've done something wrong, it's a good time to start making things right.
52 Weeks of Conscious Contact by Melody Beattie
The forgiveness process:
virtuouscycles.blogspot.ca/2009/09/forgiveness-process.html