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bluidkiti · 09-27-2014, 11:53 AM

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Someone else’s legs do you no good in traveling.
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I went over to offer help to someone at a meeting; she’d been sharing about a problem I thought I knew something about. She was chilly and asked me not to intrude. I felt pretty hurt.

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Many of us drank or drugged in a controlled, calculated fashion. The desire to maintain the illusion of control over the uncontrollable may have come with us into recovery. We may be “people-pleasers,” overly helpful or compliant, trying to take care of others, attempting to manipulate them to like and care of us. Eager to come to the rescue, we may have trouble minding our own business. We may wan to have the answer to other people’s problems—it’s a great distraction from our own. We may be quickly to offer unasked-for advice, rather than sit with the feelings that another person’s pain has awakened in us.

Today, I listen to my own and other people’s feelings. I don’t try to fix anyone, even myself.

09-27-2014, 11:53 AM	#11
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 70,587	---- 64 ---- Someone else’s legs do you no good in traveling. NIGERIAN PROVERB Newcomer I went over to offer help to someone at a meeting; she’d been sharing about a problem I thought I knew something about. She was chilly and asked me not to intrude. I felt pretty hurt. Sponsor Many of us drank or drugged in a controlled, calculated fashion. The desire to maintain the illusion of control over the uncontrollable may have come with us into recovery. We may be “people-pleasers,” overly helpful or compliant, trying to take care of others, attempting to manipulate them to like and care of us. Eager to come to the rescue, we may have trouble minding our own business. We may wan to have the answer to other people’s problems—it’s a great distraction from our own. We may be quickly to offer unasked-for advice, rather than sit with the feelings that another person’s pain has awakened in us. Today, I listen to my own and other people’s feelings. I don’t try to fix anyone, even myself. __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

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